How to Set Boundaries in Your Relationship

Even if you've never talked about boundaries with your partner, every relationship has boundaries.  Boundaries help each individual to have the space and room you need to be healthy and mentally sound.  When you are struggling to set and abide by boundaries with your significant other, you may want to work on this issue with a counselor in Orlando.  We help many couples work through their issues, including a lack of boundaries, emotional attachment issues, or unhealthy boundaries.  There are a few ways that you can set boundaries in your relationship.

Talk about Your Tolerances

Everyone has different thresholds of what they can handle, and this also includes emotions as well.  When we are pushed to our breaking points, we can lash out or create conflict that can be easily avoided.  Have conversations with your significant other about what you can handle and tolerate.  Ask for space when things are getting heated or uncomfortable.  These conversations will help both of you understand when the other person is struggling to deal with too much.

Set Up a Financial Plan

Money is one of the biggest causes of fights in relationships.  It can cause stress, anxiety, and even anger.  Whenever you take the time to set up a clear financial plan with your partner, you will be able to always fall back on your plan when things get tough.  Talk about your expenses and set up payment plans for the bills that you can.  This will alleviate stress when it comes time to talk about your spending and your budget, which can save you from many arguments.

Talk about Family Expectations

Family can also add stress to any relationship, as many people have different family dynamics.  Struggling to maintain connections between your family and your partner can place a strain on you.  Alleviate this issue by discussing family expectations from the start.  Come up with a plan to separate holidays, spend time equally with both sides of the family, and also anything involving your children (or future children).  This will set yourself up for success when these stressful events roll around, as you will already know your plans on dealing with family.

Keep the Past in the Past

It's no secret that everyone has a past, and you are entitled to that past.  When your partner struggles to come to terms with people from your past, whether they are exes or friends, you need to have discussions about how to move forward.  Coming to terms with you and your partner's past is critical in moving forward towards a bright future.  Work on keeping the past in the past so that you can focus on building your current relationship.

These are a few of the ways that you can set boundaries in your relationship.  When you work on your relationship with a professional counselor in Orlando, you will have a safe space to heal and cope with some of the challenges in your relationship.  Whether you struggle to set boundaries or you have established unhealthy boundaries, you'll want to start working on this now so that you can have a better future with your loved one.  Contact us to hear how we can help you get on the right path today.